Does living outside Coimbatore in a foreign country give happiness?

Based on a recent research and survey by David Burdram, a socialist - it is found that immigrants into foreign countries are not as happy as we think.

It is always believed that people who travel out of their native place and live in a developed nation like America or UK (London) live very happily because they have all the money there. But, the reality and survey report says that money and luxury does not give all the happiness.

People who go out of their country live far away and be away from their home country, relatives, friends and their closed ones. This makes lesser happiness and more depression in fact.

The report is based on 1400 immigrants living in America and London. However, as a past immigrant I know how it feels and I completely agree with this report.

Do you agree as well (as an NRI)?

In Coimbatore - you need know someone in TOP to be successful

In Coimbatore, if you want to be successful - you need to

1) KNOW SOMEONE IN TOP OR
2) HAVE LOT OF MONEY AND/OR
3) HAVE LOT OF MAN POWER OR
4) BE SOMEONE IN TOP or

in someway identify yourself to be related to someone in TOP.
I am sure you understand what I am saying.

If you are an average individual, you have no power! You will be kicked out in every place or business you go to, in Coimbatore. I have personally experience in every place I went. Even the officers treat badly or atleast they won't provide you the service very easily, if you are a small person and nobody in Coimbatore.

I went to SBI Bank, ICICI bank, Indian Bank, Airtel office, BSNL office etc.,. Even tea shops, parotta shops, neighbours, police station, traffic police, cinema theatre, any queues or lines to get a service.

A treatment from a construction worker (say electrician etc.,) will be different, if you are somebody!!!

This is shocking, untasteful, but that is the truth! This is true almost anywhere in India - I believe. I am guessing that is not the case in big cities!!

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Dependant or Inter-dependant Society: Coimbatore

This article is a follow-up to an article I wrote about a budding entrepreneur. Here is the previous post. Please read the previous post and then read the following...

Today, I called this Mr.X(Name hidden for privacy) and came to know that there is lot of family pressure, against his business ideas and entrepreneurship and risk-taking-attitude. His father-in-law and brother-in-law are opposing for his venture, instead they are expecting him to go for a job.

There is no independence for this guy! What is this? It is his life! He, his wife and his son is a family. How can somebody else interfere in his life? well...hold on... This is Coimbatore...Coimbatore is an inter-dependent and dependent society. This is not west, I understand that...However - there is too much control on one's life.

Why should this guy listen to his in-laws? I guess, that is how it is! In fact, in-laws will help, if there is a need and no one would come forward...

In today's modern culture, there is no joint family culture, however there is a virtual joint family culture still existing in Coimbatore. Even though physically members of the family don't stay together in a same house, still they are together virtually atleast in decisions and for happiness or sadness.

This inter-dependency definitely does not help at all for entrepreneurship!! Hope this changes/improves.

Jaathagam in Coimbatore: Moola Nakshathram

My wife's friend who lives in Coimbatore - is now of age 34 and she is not getting married due to some societal reasons. Do you know what is the reason?

Jaathagam - paazhaappona jaathagam. Looks like she has Moola Natchathiram. Moola Natchathiram is one kind of star, and it seems that not a great star.

If you have moola nathcathiram(moola star or moola Nakshthram), then there are so many restrictions for marriage. Moola star is not compatible with any star person, it seems. If you marry a moola star person, then your father would die - this is what astrologers say! Isn't it crazy?!

That is the reason, our friend is not getting any alliance for her marriage!!! It is like Tamil Comedy Actor Vivek says - "Aayiram periyaargall vandhaalum, ungallai thirutha mudiyaathu"!!!

Happy Family in Coimbatore

What do you need for a happy family?

1) Understanding spouse
2) Loving and caring spouse
3) Children
4) Satisfaction
5) Work to do for everyone in the family. At least one person as earning MONEY. Not necessary that another one also has to work to earn. But definitely something to do.
6) Savings is good.
7) Simple life.
8) Everyone likes you and your family. Being good to everyone - very difficult but possible.

The above is minimum. If you want to be more happy -

9) Wealthy - more money
10) Achievement in life - Success.

It is all my personal opinion.
If you think of anything more, please post it as comments.

Coimbatore Culture Analysis : Working women or housewife is good?

In today's expensive lifestyle, it is very difficult to live, save and prosper into a wealthy family just by one income. Life demands for both husband and wife to earn, spend and save.

When I was looking for my wife(arranged marriage), I had this debate inside myself for whether I have to choose working woman or a housewife. May be this analysis would help anybody in the same boat.

Let us analyze what are the advantages and disadvantages of a housewife for a family.

Advantages of working women over housewives.
1) More money into the family finance.
2) Busy mind, is productive. Idle mind is devil's workshop
3) Career for both husband and wife is in good shape.
4) If there is an emergency or worst cases, woman member of the family should be able to take over and balance the financial stability in the family.
5) Whole family is productive, in terms of work.

Advantages of housewife over working woman:
1) If one person is working outside and another is taking care of the family. That is the best thing for the family. All the households are taken care.
2) Kids are well taken care. Ask any working woman about their kids - they would feel bad and guilty for not taking care of them to the full extent - whatever age it is.
3) Happy family, with whatever money is available.
4) Relations are maintained.
5) Provided the family lives economically(of whatever income), a happy family.

Disclaimer: Please note these are my personal views and not intended to hurt anyone.

You wanted to know - what I chose?
At last, I was lucky(arranged marriage) to get a mix of both of them. May be that is the best option for anyone. Opinions differ...